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  • New Love Trend: Young Vietnamese Couples Investing in Homes Before Rings

    New Love Trend: Young Vietnamese Couples Investing in Homes Before Rings

    In a shift of convention, many young couples are prioritizing financial stability and homeownership over marriage. Rather than saving for a wedding, these couples are committing to mortgage contracts together, seeing this as the true foundation for their future.

    After a short dating period of only six months, Ngoc Ly and Huy Hoang, both 30 years old, decided to jointly purchase a 65-square-meter apartment on Tran Phu Street in Hanoi’s Ha Dong District, valued at USD135,000. The couple is not yet married, but they believe that owning a home lays a secure foundation, after which marriage can follow at any time.

    Hoang and Ly are both architecture graduates and began dating shortly before Lunar New Year festival of 2024. They had been working for six years before deciding to make a joint property purchase, both to grow their investments and to secure a place of their own.

    “In our assessment, we realized that no matter how hard we work, keeping pace with housing prices is almost impossible,” Hoang explains. “As people from other provinces, we’ve always dreamed of having our own place in Hanoi.”

    In May 2024, they jointly purchased the apartment in Ha Dong. A bank loan covered 60% of the property’s value. Another couple in Vung Tau, Le Hoai and Thien Nhi, both 26 years old, made a similar decision.

    The couple bought a two-story, 30-square-meter house for VND2 billion. Despite criticism and doubt from those around them, they believed purchasing a home should come before their wedding. To afford the house, they sold a homestay in Da Lat and borrowed more from relatives. In June 2024, they moved into their new house.

    A Shifting Paradigm

    The trend among young people to prioritize homeownership over marriage is growing. According to data from the Vietnam Association of Realtors Institute for Research and Evaluation, buyers aged 25–35 are now involved in over 40% of all transactions, and this figure can rise up to 70% in some housing projects.

    Truong Anh Tuan, head of the legal department at the Vietnam Real Estate Association, notes, “In recent years more young people have been pooling money to buy property together, especially in major cities. This reflects a shift in their perspective on ownership, which has become more flexible, pragmatic, and open to risk-taking.”

    Dr. La Linh Nga, director of the Center for Psychological and Educational Science Research and Application, adds that young people today approach love with practicality and independence. They plan carefully for each stage of their lives, from dating to marriage, from securing housing to starting a family.

    This trend highlights the harsh reality of homeownership dreams in the face of rising property prices and stagnant wages. As a result, the government has initiated programs like the “One Million Social Housing Units” and preferential credit packages to support young buyers.

    Questions & Answers

    What are the factors influencing young couples to prioritize homeownership before marriage?
    Rising property prices and stagnant wages are pushing young couples to prioritize homeownership. They are pooling resources to buy property together as they believe it provides a secure foundation for their future.

    What is the government doing to support young property buyers?
    The government has initiated several programs like the “One Million Social Housing Units” and preferential credit packages to assist young property buyers.

    What does this trend signify about the new generation’s perspective on homeownership?
    This trend reflects a shift in perspective among the new generation who are more pragmatic, flexible, and open to risk-taking. They are considering joint property ownership as a form of investment and a step towards financial stability.

  • Three myths about cheating 

    Three myths about cheating 

    “8 ways to keep a man,” “How to keep a marriage” – training and seminars on such topics are often based on the idea of ​​control in relationships. Many people believe that it is in our power to control the “quality of relations” and that it depends primarily on us whether the partner will cheat. In our opinion, this belief is based on three myths. More precisely, these are not entirely myths, sometimes they turn out to be true, but they become a problem when we consider each betrayal through their prism. The human experience is much more diverse than our ideas about it. 

    Myth # 1: “Cheating appears due to relationship problems.” 

    And really, can there be a place for cheating in a happy marriage? And does not the fact of betraying automatically mean an unsuccessful marriage? Sometimes not. Often the cheating partner is not going to destroy the relationship; moreover, his partner, maybe children and the family nest, in general, are dear to him. In our culture, it is very difficult to accept the idea that adultery also happens in marriages in which there are no serious problems. Like the man saw a young pretty woman on the https://primedating.com/gallery.html  site, they met and something terrible happened. In fact, there are no relationships at all without problems. Take a closer look at the relationship, which only yesterday seemed strong, but today cracked, and there will certainly be some explanation. 

    And although cheating is what a person seems to be doing in relation to his partner this act is far from being always about a partner. Sometimes this is the way out of a very deep personality conflict. Since childhood, each of us has a dilemma every now and then – to choose the security of maternal embrace or risky exploration of the world. 

    Different parts of our “I” cannot simultaneously receive satisfaction in marriage – at least not automatically. It hurts to accept, but this is the reality of life. Some are trying to solve this dilemma in polygamous relationships, but such a compromise has many pitfalls. And by the way, keep in mind: “I am polygamous, but my wife does not know” – this is not an open marriage. As soon as cheating gets revealed, a personal conflict instantly turns into an interpersonal one, and then the question “what is wrong between us” comes to the fore. Although until the moment of finding a random text or someone else’s stuff in the spouse’s car, this was an internal conflict of one person, in fact, very indirectly related to the partner. 

    This myth follows the second, which can become destructive for the one who is cheated on. 

    Myth # 2: “We cheat because we lack something in the partner.”  

    The bitter truth is that a person sometimes enters into a relationship on the side, unconsciously rebelling against what he values ​​most in his partner. Imagine a woman who has a wonderful husband, two children, this friendly family experienced a lot of good and difficult things together. This woman insanely appreciates the care and attention of a partner. And at the same time, his courtesy and well-organized daily life suppress her. A woman falls in love with a man who has no permanent job and acts quite windy. Each of our friends, lovers reflects something special in us. Sometimes we did not suspect. 

    She, of course, feels enormous guilt, but at the same time, an incredible rise: this romance helped her to feel that she was alive again! She discovered something new in herself; she never thought she was capable of it. But at the same time, she really really appreciates her marriage. He is incredibly important to her. It’s just that a certain part of her “I” could not fully express itself in these stable relations.  

    Myth # 3: “Male and female infidelities are different in essence” 

    Men cheat easily and for the sake of drive, and women only when they feel an emotional connection, the social stereotype tells us. In fact, both men and women have emotional and sexual needs. But society, as we know, looks rather condescendingly on how a man satisfies both of them – having a reliable rear in the form of a family and sexual adventures on the side. But the woman is required to sacrifice her sexual interests for the sake of the family. 

    In fact, the role of a caring mother, which is most often chosen by a woman, turns out to be a real anti-aphrodisiac in partnerships. Responsibility for others prevents her from focusing on her desires. To reconcile the emotional connection with home reliability and comfort is not a problem to be solved, it is a paradox that needs to be dealt with somehow. And how exactly – in the form of refusal or restriction of one’s desires, polygamous relationships, open marriage – everyone already decides for himself. And no one can solve it for another. 

     

  • Tinder sees Korea as stepping stone to region

    Tinder sees Korea as stepping stone to region

    Korea is the test bed for Tinder services in the rest of Asia, the dating app’s CEO said during his first press conference in the country on Tuesday.  “South Korea is an important market for us because of the market itself, but also because of the cultural influence it has over the broader Asia region,” said Tinder CEO Elie Seidman. Seidman previously served as the CEO of OkCupid, another popular American dating service.

    “Not only do most Koreans have smartphones and use social media, but the country wields a lot of influence in Asia through K-pop and the Korean wave.”

    Korea’s potential to raise the brand awareness of Tinder across Asia has already been demonstrated, according to the app’s regional director.

    “We once worked together with Korean celebrities Kim Jong-kook and Haha to have them use Tinder during a trip in Vietnam” for a reality TV show, said Lyla Seo, regional director, East Asia. “We saw a huge surge in Tinder users in Vietnam following the program.”

    Seo, who is Korean, oversees the dating service’s business in Korea, Japan and Indonesia. Seo worked as a marketing manager for Google Korea before joining Tinder.

    “Tinder has the so-called passport service, which allows people to view and match with users from other countries. The top five countries that used the passport to meet Koreans were Singapore, Japan, Thailand, Indonesia and Malaysia, reflecting the popularity of Korean culture,” she added.

    In Korea, the dating app first launched in 2015 and has been growing rapidly since. Tinder in Korea reported over 2.5 times more downloads last year compared to 2016. The service is especially popular among women, and over 80 percent of the users here are millennials.

    According to Tinder, the three biggest reasons Koreans use the app are to meet new types of people from different backgrounds, find users with similar hobbies and meet users in the same area.

    Users in Korea are most active on the app around 10 p.m. on Monday after they come back from work or school, Tinder also said.

    Tinder’s plan in Korea this year is to draw in more college-aged students and promote the idea that the app can be used to meet friends under the “Find a friend on Tinder” campaign.

    “In Korea, we are planning to introduce more marketing activities targeting college students and contribute to society by launching a scholarship program,” Seo said.

    Tinder, founded in 2012, has around 4.1 million paying users and generated $800 million in revenue last year worldwide.

  • 58 percent of Filipino women delay marriage and kids for career

    58 percent of Filipino women delay marriage and kids for career

    Most Filipino women believe there has never been a better time to be a woman and that femininity is strength, according to research made by global marketing communications brand J. Walter Thompson (JWT).

    That they are among the least likely to experience sexism in the workplace compared to their sisters in the Asia-Pacific region reflects this world view.

    ‘Too superficial’

    Filipino women also wish to mentor their juniors—whether in the family, office or other social circles—in the self-taught independence and expression they have honed as part of growth. One reason for this is that Filipino women apparently feel it is dangerous to leave young girls looking for role models in media, since female celebrities are “too superficial.”

    JWT revealed the results of its study called “Filipina Next” in time for the celebration of International Women’s Day last March 8. The quantitative and qualitative research covered Filipino women across socioeconomic levels, from 18 to 70 years old.

    “Filipina Next” is an offshoot of the group’s more exhaustive poll in 2016 called “Female Tribes” that involved 4,300 participants from the United States, China, United Kingdom, Brazil, Saudi Arabia, Russia, India, Australia and South Africa. In that study, women, ages 18 to 70, were asked about money, career, religion, sex and other “relevant topics.”

    Highlights

    Among the highlights that JWT Philippines managing director Golda Roldan and executive strategic planning director Pamela Pacete-Garcia shared from “Filipina Next” are:

    98 percent of Filipino women believe in establishing “strong and substantial women in television and film,” but 76 percent find female celebs “too superficial.”

    Still, 15 percent credit a female role model in media for inspiring them to leave an abusive relationship.

    94 percent want women in general to “step up and serve as mentors to young girls.”

    80 percent consider themselves “the main household purchaser,” with 73 percent saying they make majority of financial decisions at home.

    72 percent claim they “don’t need anyone but themselves to achieve their goals.”

    Among those who turned to role models, 41 percent “have taken risks in life that they otherwise would not have taken;” 40 percent “became more ambitious,” while 33 percent were encouraged to go to school or pursue further education.

    63 percent consider sexual fulfillment important as a lifelong concept, with 70 percent agreeing that sexual fulfillment is not just for the young; 50 percent expect to remain sexually active even in their advanced years.

    58 percent would delay getting married and/or having children to pursue their chosen career.

    More than career advancement and the acquisition of material wealth, 47 percent measure success as “achieving a higher level of religious and spiritual awareness.”

    Policy issues

    While JWT studies showed Filipino women as the least likely to experience sexism at work, guest panelists in the presentation agreed that mentoring young women would help them overcome challenges, especially in the workplace.

    Taguig Rep. Pia Cayetano said this means it becomes more crucial now to confront policy issues such as maternity leave, age discrimination and reproductive health because “we still live in a time when women are very much discriminated against.”

    In the case of Olympic medalist Hidilyn Diaz, she recalled facing opposition from family members, particularly her mother, Emelita, after she decided to concentrate on weightlifting—a sport normally associated with “macho” men.

    Luminaries

    Other panelists attributed their success to strong women in the family who raised them, and mentors at work who encouraged them to find their place.

    Trickie Lopa of Art Fair Philippines had grandmothers who were both luminaries in the faculty of University of Santo Tomas, and a mother who also worked.

    “I never experienced women being Maria Clara (the weak female character in Rizal’s “Noli Me Tangere”). These days I work with women… I’m surrounded so it’s never been an issue,” Lopa said.

    Armie Jarin-Bennett of CNN Philippines recalled asking too many questions (“Tanong ako nang tanong”) at work “so people had the tendency to take me under their wing.”

    Melissa Henson, senior vice president and chief marketing officer of Manulife Philippines, once had a “Turkish lady” who taught her the ropes during a stint abroad.

    “In the US, I was the quiet Filipina who didn’t speak. Kasi nakakahiya, baka mali ang sasabihin ko, mas matalino sila sa akin,” she said.

    Henson said her boss encouraged her to speak up “or they’ll think you don’t know. If I turn out wrong, so what? Do better next time. I grew significantly, professionally under her watch.”

    Role models

    Johnson & Johnson country director Tina Sabarre noted that her women role models “did not act like men,” which made her realize “I can really be a woman, be strong in my femininity, and not work as if I am a man, and succeed.”

    Globe Telecom senior vice president and head of consumer mobile marketing Issa Cabreira grew up watching a grandmother, who was widowed at 49, raise seven children, and a mother who raised four kids after separating from her husband.

    “Having two very strong role models made me who I am today. If I am asked what drives me, it’s always those two amazing women—professionals who were doing the (traditional) jobs of men because they were running businesses,” Cabreira said.

    “I did not follow them as entrepreneurs, but they drove me to be at least half as successful on my own,” she added.